Anxiety is hell.
“Worrying is
carrying tomorrow's load with today's strength- carrying two days at once. It
is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn't empty tomorrow of its
sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” Corrie ten Boom
The
title of this blog really sums up anxiety, it’s the ultimate hell. No matter
how hard you try and turn it off, at times it just doesn’t go away, it just
lingers. Out of all my mental health, anxiety is the one I struggle the most
with. It’s present every day in my life. Sometimes, it’s not that bad, but it
can be crippling.
You
can research the both the physical and psychological symptoms of anxiety, but
unless you research into blogs, no one really tells you what it’s like day in,
day out. I find my physical symptoms are raised temperature, increased and
irregular heartbeat, anxiety belly (the feeling of emptiness in my stomach made
worse by the feeling of butterflies), hot flushes and at times panic attacks.
This often leads to difficulty sleeping. At times the physical and
psychological effects can warrant me bed bound and unable to leave the house
because of how anxious I feel.
Psychologically,
anxiety wipes me out. Firstly, the fear of the worst possible outcome. Anxiety
prevents me from thinking rationally and instantly results to the worst outcome
from the situation. For example, I went to a festival recently and I bought the
ticket off someone rather than through the company. I was so anxious that I had
bought a counterfeit ticket that I couldn’t sleep the night before the
festival. I was daydreaming that I would walk up to the counter, they would
scan my ticket and it would be a fake. Then what would I do? How would I get
home? What would my friends think? I’d be a liability. This is the smallest
thing, but to me it was major. My ticket was real, the person was trustworthy,
I had a brilliant time but the lead up was awful for me.
Feeling
like things are against you, that people are against you is something
incredibly difficult to overcome. Anxiety has meant that for me friendships and
relationships are extremely difficult. I often feel that people are against me
and don’t like me, when that is false. I can feel as if even my closest friends
hate me, that they don’t really want to stick around, that I’m a burden on
them. Because of this, I tend to distance myself from them, and then stupidly I’m
alone. I feel incredibly nervous around new people, unsure of how to act or
feel, especially in large groups. When in a group and people start talking amongst
themselves, my brain tells me instantly that’s about me, that they’re staring
and laughing at me, forming a judgement. In relationships, my anxiety plays up massively
and the paranoia takes over. Any little bump or hurdle in the relationship and
my mind is shot. The negative thoughts then creep in, he’s going to leave you,
why? Because you’re not worthy of love, no one should care for you, no one
loves you.
If
anything goes wrong, my world goes to shit. Anything I don’t like the sound of,
anything that doesn’t go my way or the way I planned and my brain takes a hold.
I begin to panic, my world speeds up and the physical sensations sink in. It
feels like everything is against me. Of course, it’s not, it’s just life and
life throws hurdles in the way. But it feels like it can only happen to me. My
world falls down around me and I question, why me? Why does everything happen
to me? Am I a bad person?
Overthinking
is the worst thing about anxiety. The thinking when you just can’t turn your
brain off, you can’t sleep, you can’t eat. It feels like your head is heavy,
like your body is being weighed down by an invisible pressure. Overthinking
makes you feel numb when it does eventually shut off. It feels like a million
thoughts are racing around your brain, clouding up your mind and it’s hard to
escape. It is so hard to shut off.
Having
dealt with anxiety there are some self-help exercises that can really help. The
main one for me is taking away the focus from the thoughts and anxiety. To do
so I usually make myself a cup of tea, sit down somewhere comfortable and have
a cigarette. I focus on the tea, what it tastes like (herbal teas are seriously
good) and the heat from it. It helps to just calm everything down and to shift
the focus. Deep breathing can also help, when breathing out imagine all the
anxiety leaving the body starting from the head. This can really help if you
are tensed up, especially around the shoulders.
Talking
to people is one of the best therapies. By this I don’t mean just mean a
professional therapist but someone you are comfortable with. This could be a
friend, a parent, a teacher, someone that cares about you. I always find that
talking to someone about what is going on in my head, or any concerns I have really
helps to elevate the anxiety and make me calmer.
Anxiety
is such a struggle, but it can be managed. I honestly would not wish it on
anyone. There are methods to control anxiety alongside medication which do work
and in time you find coping mechanisms that really help for you. It’s a long
road, one which is very difficult, but there is a light at the end of the
tunnel, and you can overcome anxiety.
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